How strong are you?
I’m not asking if you can carry 150 lbs. of weight. What I’m after is your strength of character. How resilient are you to hang on to your dreams amidst the raging forces of discouragement and criticisms?
There are far too many individuals who never get to experience the joy of attaining their desires because other people’s influence has significantly (and sometimes negatively) affected their crucial decisions.
Are there instances in your life when other people said that you should not continue your plans because they’re never gonna work? What did you do? Did you continue your endeavors or did you just follow their command?
If you always adhere to other’s beliefs and opinions even though they are contrary to yours, you’re just torturing yourself. It’s like you don’t have a mind of your own. You’re like a shadow following the moves of someone else.
You may listen to other people’s advice, but never let them control you. If their advice contributed to your success and well-being, then by all means follow them. But if they would hinder you and stray you away from what you really want in life, then you’ve got to make a stand and pursue your heart’s aspirations.
Sure there would be criticisms. But if you always avoid them, then you will never be truly happy.
As one famous person said, “There is a sure way to avoid criticisms, be nothing and do nothing. This remedy never fails.” True enough.
Take my case.
When I was in first-year college, my dad wanted me to shift my course to Physical Therapy because it was in demand in the United States at that time. But I wanted to continue my studies in Accountancy. I remained firm with my decision and after some negotiations, they finally gave in.
Then there’s my love life. Chinese tradition states that Chinese people marry their own kind. (No offense) But I fell madly in love with this Filipino girl. Despite all the criticisms, discouragement, and harsh words (pardon me), I defended my love for her. Right now we’re going strong and my relatives have respected my decision.
You see, if I have given up easily in any of the two scenarios, I would’ve deprived myself of joy and contentment in my life.
Sometimes other people’s words would cut like a knife. But we never disheartened. Listen to the voice inside you. We will never be able to satisfy everybody because each of us is unique. We have our own distinct traits and values. Respect for each other’s opinions should be upheld.
With that said, I would like to leave this final message that sums it all up. Follow your heart and happiness will follow.